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Post by peaceinthestorm on Dec 30, 2014 15:27:05 GMT
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Post by shiloh on Dec 30, 2014 15:39:18 GMT
Oh, Peace! Isn't that the truth?! I remember at my mother-in- law's funeral, I looked around and all the younger ones were texting during it (even some older ones) and I thought, "Wow! How times have changed."
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Post by Leeza on Dec 30, 2014 18:03:11 GMT
Well, I can't miss what I never had, but I do agree with you, Peace. Modern technology has replaced communication of families, which is why the divorce rate is so high. No one spends time or talks with each other anymore. That's one way that the devil has toppled the foundation of the families in this generation.
Texting during a funeral? That's sad.
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Post by elizabeth on Dec 30, 2014 18:17:07 GMT
Texting at a funeral, that's beyond the pale, even by todays standards, I would think. It is sad how things have changed, but that's the way of the world.
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Post by morningstar on Dec 30, 2014 18:49:39 GMT
And we wonder why the world is going to hell in a hand basket, and why the youth of today (even adults) are becoming cold and uncaring.
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Post by shiloh on Dec 30, 2014 19:42:56 GMT
Well, I'm glad to see that me and my husband weren't the only ones appalled. Our daughter and son didn't do that even though they had their cell phones on them. Good thing too, because I would have smacked the ever living snot out of them.
Isn't that sad? I have to admit that one night me and my husband were in different rooms and it isn't like we have a mansion or something. But we were emailing each other really funny stuff back and forth and we both had other screens up. He had his and I had mine. But, that was at home and we do talk all the time. The only reason we are on this site is out of necessity because we all live in different places and are far away from each other. It will be so wonderful to meet everyone...hopefully this year. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2014 19:48:36 GMT
Shiloh: I think that is sweet and a little flirty to be emailing your hubby back and forth.
We banned cell phones during our Christmas celebration and no one pulled them out.
Bad taste to pull them out at a funeral.
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Post by Leeza on Dec 31, 2014 0:31:37 GMT
That's cute, Shiloh! Kind of like the modern day version of love notes.  |
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Post by Benjamin on Dec 31, 2014 1:17:13 GMT
This certainly highlights the issue though, doesn't it.
It's not technology that's the problem - it's the way we use it. I think that this detachment is a symptom of a much broader problem. The world is such an horrific place that people would rather not be in it anymore... and so we've become happy to be escapist.
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Post by shiloh on Dec 31, 2014 2:22:59 GMT
That truly sums it up, Benjamin. We no longer want to be in this world. Sooooooo, we can all refer to us all as 'happy escapists' from now on. I'm not cutting everyone down who was texting during the wake. They were short texts but I'm just saying how times have changed. If my kids did do that, they were probably out of the room at that time. I bet that's what they did. |
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Post by Benjamin on Dec 31, 2014 2:29:44 GMT
My girls (12 & 6) don't have mobile phones yet.
Jade will get one next year, when she'll have to catch buses to school - but even so, I'm going to make sure that it's set up carefully, so that she can't just sit on it texting all day etc. - that's absolutely not what it's for. We've already been encouraging her that if she wants to talk to her friends, she should do just that - call and talk to them.
I really do hate mobile phones.
I hate the fact that people can reach me whenever they want to (I've had work-related calls very late at night at times - and for goodness' sake, I work in Childcare), and I really dislike the fact that people seem unable to survive without their phones these days. It's not cool.
...and I LOVE technology.
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Post by Leeza on Dec 31, 2014 2:39:14 GMT
Well, when I grew up, we didn't have a car, a phone, or a TV, and I managed to survive. I read a lot, and my mom played board games with me. She was the one who taught me to play blackjack and poker. I guess I had a misspent youth according to today's standards.
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Post by Benjamin on Dec 31, 2014 2:48:18 GMT
We don't have a TV.
I ditched TV about 10 years ago, as pretty much everything on it was rubbish, and the advertising was just... annoying noise.
I haven't missed it at all, except for the fact that for a long time, it was hard to watch sport, as there weren't many places online to do that. Now, I can get all the sport I like online, so it works well.
There are a few TV shows that my wife and I watch, but given that I can download those now too, I'm not missing out on anything at all.
It also means that I can carefully select what my girls watch and see, which is growing increasingly difficult these days on TV and on the internet. The internet, I can filter - but TV is harder to monitor.
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Post by shiloh on Dec 31, 2014 2:51:03 GMT
hahahahahahaha..I know. May I suggest we go back to the days of writing letters and sending them through 'snail mail'? I have some people that even though we email eachother, still send letters. There is something very special and personal about that. I saved all of my 'spiritual' mother's letters to me. I have volumes of them in shoe boxes. Since she has gone to be with the Lord, I sometimes pull some out and reread them. They had everything to do with Jesus an she always included scripture.....some funny stuff she would write though too. I still miss her dearly. Benjamin, I think that's a good idea what you are going to do. Or.....you can always make them write letters an mail them...hahahahaha. NOW we're talkin' Little House On The Prairie. |
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Post by Benjamin on Dec 31, 2014 3:03:56 GMT
Books are another thing that I make sure my girls are into.
Jade has a collection of all of the classics (including Little House on the Prairie!).
I credit much of my own literary education to the Bible, but books like that certainly helped too.
My children aren't going to grow up with an iPhone education in language if I have anything to do with it!
Honestly, you probably wouldn't believe some of the resumes that come across my desk... the language, the grammar, the inability to express even the simplest of concepts in language... they're unbelievable.
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Post by shiloh on Dec 31, 2014 4:10:18 GMT
Now there's no need to talk about me that way, Benjamin.
PLEASE don't mention books. I have tons of boxes of books and they weigh a ton, that my mother-in-law wanted our daughter to have because she knew she's a real bookworm and some are real expensive because they are the original copies. Our daughter is the type that will read the book and go buy the movie if she can find it. She was like that with 'Pride and Prejudice'. She reads everything but it's all wholesome, good books. Is you daughter like that too? If not yet, she will be. I'm glad she reads her bible every day though.
Her and me used to watch Little House On The Prairie every day after school on some channel that had reruns of older stuff. They were all old to me but I knew she would love it. I think you daughters will be just fine and turn out lovely because they have good parents.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2014 10:53:41 GMT
My children had cell phones when one was in grammar school and the other in Jr. High. This was a result of the times. We had a shooting in a school the next town over, bomb scares, drive by shooting threats, etc. I needed to be able to reach them and they needed to reach me if they were caught in one of these acts of evil.
They did read a lot however and I read a lot to them when younger. They were both advanced readers according to their teachers which spills over to other subjects. Reading is the basis for all learning.
I think that without TV and technology, you talk together more as a family. I remember not having TV as a kid and people visited each other more and just talked. That sense of community has slipped by because of technology and because life is so fast paced. I count it as a big loss to our society.
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Post by shiloh on Dec 31, 2014 16:36:56 GMT
Technology can be a good thing but it can also be an albatross. We have T.V. but we ditched cable a few years ago. Now, my husband just downloads things we both like to watch and most of the things we watch are documentaries. There are some things we like, such as TANKED (those guys build aquariums for people that have ball parks, high end restaurants, etc. and get the fish and everything that goes in it). We also like to watch "Deadliest Catch" and I love my animal shows/documentaries. But if an ASPCA commercial comes on I'm reduced to tears. Other than that, all we watch is the local, world news and Charles Stanley every Sunday morning.
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Post by Benjamin on Dec 31, 2014 23:27:17 GMT
If you like "Deadliest Catch", you should check out "River Monsters". You'd like that.
It's by an angler named Jeremy Wade, who calls himself an 'extreme angler'. He cruises around the world going to remote locations chasing down giant river fish. It's great.
I'm a bit of a documentary glutton, myself. I love learning stuff.
It's really THAT specific. I don't really even care what the topic is, I just like 'learning stuff'.
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Post by shelayne on Jan 1, 2015 5:51:57 GMT
My boys did not get cellphones until they were 15, and I finally gave in because they were both playing football, and I needed to coordinate pick-up and drop off times. Even then, they had Tracphones, so they knew they had to budget their monthly minutes wisely. I told them the phone was able to "track" them, so that I would always know where they were. Muawahahahahaha! And they believed me. At least for a little while.  |
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Post by shiloh on Jan 1, 2015 6:04:02 GMT
OH! I have to tell him about that. I know he'll download those too. I love learning things about every subject too. There's always something I learn. Most things I learn, other people aren't interested in but it often comes in handy. It's hard to explain.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 1, 2015 10:08:57 GMT
Love that you told them you could track them. It makes a kid think twice about where they go. I wish I had thought of that.
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Post by shiloh on Jan 1, 2015 13:49:22 GMT
It's one of the joys of being a parent of young children...to make them paranoid...hahaha. I think it's very scary to have young ones now. You pray that God keeps His protective Hand on them. I can't believe what some people post on facebook. I had to drop it because it was just too much for me. Then , I felt obligated to keep up with everything. My daughter has a very nice, classy one. |
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Post by Guest on Jan 5, 2015 18:09:48 GMT
Does anyone here remember Prayer Meetings on Wednesday night? I was(about7/8yrs.old)in a small church of about 200 members and every Wed. we would have a brief period of song and worship. Then the pastor would ask if anyone had anything to say,or a prayer request.After a brief silence someone would always stand up and say what the Lord had done in their lives this past week. I can recall many time it was an answer to a prayer request from the previous week.Once the ice was broken,more people would stand and give their testimony. It was in these meeting I realized,not the Sunday morning service, this God is for real!
After the testimonies,the prayer request were non stop.Then all the request were called out one by one in period of prayer.
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Post by peaceinthestorm on Jan 5, 2015 18:23:10 GMT
Those sound wonderful. I don't remember an evening service like that but I do remember youth group(so much fun) and evening bible studies. To me church was more of a family back then. We knew each other better. Now it is more of acquaintances who have the Lord in common.
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Post by elizabeth on Jan 5, 2015 19:24:31 GMT
Guest, that does sound wonderful. You were so fortunate to be going to such a chuch at the young age of 7 or 8. That was quite a blessing.
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Post by Benjamin on Jan 5, 2015 22:13:37 GMT
Does anyone here remember Prayer Meetings on Wednesday night? I was(about7/8yrs.old)in a small church of about 200 members and every Wed. we would have a brief period of song and worship. Then the pastor would ask if anyone had anything to say,or a prayer request.After a brief silence someone would always stand up and say what the Lord had done in their lives this past week. I can recall many time it was an answer to a prayer request from the previous week.Once the ice was broken,more people would stand and give their testimony. It was in these meeting I realized,not the Sunday morning service, this God is for real! After the testimonies,the prayer request were non stop.Then all the request were called out one by one in period of prayer. I remember some pretty amazing prayer meetings. We used to have them before (teaching) Youth Group, with just 5 or 6 of us. I loved those times. Being with people who genuinely love the Lord, praying together with a unity of thought and desire... it was wonderful. I wonder now if those times are gone. I know for some, such things probably still exist - but where I live, I'd probably struggle to draw together 5 or 6 people who have a genuine love and relationship with the Lord. Most people are just going through the motions, going to Church because it's what they've always done. I'm ready to go. Rapture, anyone? |
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Post by shelayne on Jan 6, 2015 5:35:03 GMT
Does anyone here remember Prayer Meetings on Wednesday night? I was(about7/8yrs.old)in a small church of about 200 members and every Wed. we would have a brief period of song and worship. Then the pastor would ask if anyone had anything to say,or a prayer request.After a brief silence someone would always stand up and say what the Lord had done in their lives this past week. I can recall many time it was an answer to a prayer request from the previous week.Once the ice was broken,more people would stand and give their testimony. It was in these meeting I realized,not the Sunday morning service, this God is for real! After the testimonies,the prayer request were non stop.Then all the request were called out one by one in period of prayer. That sounds wonderful! |
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Post by mary on Mar 22, 2018 17:22:48 GMT
My girls (12 & 6) don't have mobile phones yet. Jade will get one next year, when she'll have to catch buses to school - but even so, I'm going to make sure that it's set up carefully, so that she can't just sit on it texting all day etc. - that's absolutely not what it's for. We've already been encouraging her that if she wants to talk to her friends, she should do just that - call and talk to them. I really do hate mobile phones. I hate the fact that people can reach me whenever they want to (I've had work-related calls very late at night at times - and for goodness' sake, I work in Childcare), and I really dislike the fact that people seem unable to survive without their phones these days. It's not cool. ...and I LOVE technology. I ran across this, after just being shocked that people do texting at funerals nowadays in 2018. I don't have a cell phone, but a land line. It has caller ID and I don't answer it (unless I glance at my little list of people I know). Thanks for telling us about your older girls and the process, great to hear it. I appreciate technology too, but feel sorry for all who are so tied to technologies that those addicted don't even know of other things they could do. |
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